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Remembering Your BIG DAY
Cherished, Romantic and Well Prepared
 This article is written for both the upcoming Bride and Groom who choose to start their married lives with confidence and assurance 'of forever'. You will notice in this story Greg and Mary are meeting with their professional taking healthy action steps that lead to clarity. a strong relationship, enhanced communication levels and understanding of and banishment of non-beneficial subconscious impressions. They choose to resolve damaging differences and diminish apprehension and pre-wedding tension. You will also recognize their issues are very similar to many couples, and with desire and subconscious understanding of the problem, one can change their impression of that permanently. As you read deeper into their story, you will gain knowledge that one of them discovers that they have repeated difficulty with conflict and the other person realizes they have a history with having difficulty with 'letting go of their self-perceived freedom' despite truly loving their significant other. Their BIG day is nearing and they sense that all the necessary energy and preparation to create their 'perfect day' has brought them to a place in their life where they recognize they need to reconnect and refocus on the real reason they desire to spend the rest of their lives together forever. They love and adore each other; it is their plan to spend their life together forever. They choose to obtain clarity in areas of their relationship that if not addressed, could divide them as a couple causing unnecessary problems later in their married life.
Greg discusses how they have both carefully planned their storybook wedding and their big day is quickly nearing. All their appointments, the wedding nuptials and pre-wedding parties have been purposely considered and accomplished. They both agree their reception reflects their personal preferences, and their chosen accessories seem to be 'picture perfect'. They discuss that a lot of time and energy has been spent on their upcoming wedding and they smile as they talk about how romance and all its glory await them at their extraordinary honeymoon destination. Their professional listens as they further share their story of their wedding party excitement and how their family and friends eagerly await the BIG event. Like the future Bride and Groom, in the professional's mind's eye, it seems like the words they use describing their blessed event are, "beautiful, romantic and delightful".
Greg notes they are both clear on who is 'footing which bills' and who's in charge of planning particular events. They both chime in, "Our most memorable day of our life is approaching VERY quickly and we both want to be fully prepared and be fully ready to capture all our special moments". Greg humorously states how they have discovered and mutually agreed upon the 'Hallmark Cake' and Mary chats on about how her florist has helped her pick floral designs that beautifully compliment their carefully chosen wedding attire.
As they discuss their 'cooperative attempt' to decide the best photographer, emotions, postural gestures and the tone of conversation in the room begins to shift from a free flowing dialogue to a tense exchange of words This seemingly innocent subject matter brings to the surface, dormant unhealthy feelings that need to be addressed so this couple can begin their married life with peace and inner happiness vs. anger and resentment. It appears to all present, as the couple discusses their preference of photographer in greater details, the 'we' as a couple seems to become forgotten and up comes a familiar old, and dormant emotional rush of dreaded conflict to one of the two individuals,. As this person 'tries' to express their feelings with great difficulty the other person attempts to listen despite their frequent feelings of inadequacy in how to solve problems. The professional helps redirect Greg and Mary's focus and explains that when they notice themselves struggling with feelings of fear, rejection and conflict, old subconscious beliefs and emotions become misinterpreted and if not understood can become a block to finding peaceful resolution. Their professional has seen for herself, their snap reactions to how they respond to heightened differences of opinions. Prior to the initial session with Greg and Mary, they each filled out an intake form. Each just acted out precisely what they had written on their intake forms regarding what they felt had limited them in making desired changes to improve their relationship.
Because they mutually value the 'we' in their relationship, and choose to marry with confidence and assurance 'of forever', both Greg and Mary decided to see this specialist so they could be well prepared to handle 'crunch time' with greater ease, be fully present, emotionally and mentally, and connected as one as they become husband and wife. The initial purpose of their sessions was to take steps to understand why one of them reported having years of fear of conflict and the other person, an ongoing struggle with feelings of inadequacy during difficult times in their relationship even though they were continually supported by their loved one.
Their Consulting Specialist educated them in the power of the mind and the benefits of receiving hypnosis. They soon understood that many human deficits are caused by subconscious beliefs - patterns of habits, stresses and emotional barriers and can usually be traced to the individual's interpretations by the subconscious mind; when we deem something truly believable, (thoughts, habits, etc.) - that information bypasses the critical factor of the conscious mind and WHAM, it enters into our subconscious and we then begin to act upon that information. The couple also leaned that with desire for change, they can release that information and once 'the impression' is also understood by the conscious mind, they are able to reduce or resolve the problem(s); most times eliminate the exact problem(s) that unintentionally interfere with one's life and relationships. With this knowledge and a few hypnosis sessions in a natural trance state (a process), Greg and Mary successfully accomplished their chosen goals; they were able to banish their subconscious underlying problem(s). This process and favorable results allowed them to honor each other's needs, to each own a sense of healthy self esteem and allowed each the freedom to feel they could agree to disagree and honestly communicate without fear of conflict. These benefits can now be carried into their marriage instead of resentment and fear.
Many people believe the clergy and the photographer are the two most important parts of your wedding; they make your whole experience cherished and gratifying. Like Greg and Mary, you both realize your upcoming wedding day is the introduction of your marriage vs. the wedding itself. That is why it is time to be sure that as a couple, you have both touched base with your needs, be united as 'we' and refocused on the true meaning of your blessed event. All the countless hours, days and months of preplanning will be muted in comparison to the real reason that you have chosen to spend your lives together. One of the most important days of your life is about to occur therefore, you will both chose be and feel confident and your BIG day memorable or if not careful, you could both feel mentally frayed or stressed out by the time your cherished day arrives. This is also a great time to discern; are you feeling emotionally 'in the glow'? Is there stress that seems larger than your perfect day? Are you both mentally and emotionally prepared to handle 'crunch time'? Are there some emotions you choose to set free so that you also can have a strong and happy marriage, communicate openly and be free of fear to express feelings honestly and able to set healthy boundaries?
One of the most important events any bride and groom can add to their elegant day is being and feeling emotionally well-designed and well-dressed internally with happiness, diminished stress and feeling unrushed. Because you both choose to connect, remember that commitment is a process and value that allows self to express with greater ease when free from former subconscious obstacles. Years later as you look back at your treasured photographs you will see pictures of you both beaming ecstatically both internally and externally, evidence of your cherished moments and memories. Keep in mind, willpower will not remove stress or subconscious barriers nor will it emotionally help you to feel or find true happiness. Relying on willpower is like relying on failure to create change and joy.
Facts: You do NOT need to continue to make the same mistakes! Approximately 80% of your thought capacity is controlled in your powerful, subconscious mind. Because the conscious (rational, analytical, willpower) mind can NOT override emotions, people innocently continue to repeat the same patterns of behaviors, etc. that harm or damage a potentially good relationship. With desire and commitment to change, via hypnosis you CAN tap into your powerful subconscious mind, and easily unlock and release 'rooted' subconscious beliefs, thoughts and habits that create amazing, life changing results.
Hypnosis is a modality that is a natural occurring process. Because you are committed to being and feeling your best, your Consulting Hypnotist will be your guide in helping you identify, release and banish stress, doubts and fears and beneficially help you get through the organizational matter of your wedding events from the beginning to the end with much greater ease. With so many families having multiple parents, hypnosis can also help you focus on 'the memorable couple' instead of them. Your specialist will understand well in advance of what your needs and desires are (via an intake form), so both bride and groom can attain the proper perspective, the ideal state of relaxation and help you both stay naturally happy and healthy right through your honeymoon and into years beyond. Hypnosis can help the ideal couple eradicate pre-wedding pressures so that you can both focus on having the 'perfect wedding'. Imagine your wedding nerves 'melting away' and you - the bride and groom approaching your gala event with internal peace and happiness. Picture your wedding and wedding story being 'the wedding of bliss'. Imagine your wedding is the one that is remembered as 'the most memorable to all', especially to you, the bride and groom. As you think about your wedding, hear the words spoken, "cherished, romantic, and well prepared". Wishing your marriage joy and valued happiness as you celebrate your life together!
Polly Humphreys, Specialist and Consulting Hypnotist at Alternative Wellness & Beyond is recognized for her skilled ability to help her clients uncover and permanently release - deep seated subconscious beliefs, thoughts and unwanted habits that unknowingly sabotage relationship(s). She also works with engaged couples as well as those in current relationships that choose to strengthen their bond and with clients desiring to let go of emotional baggage so they can enter their next relationship free from repeating the same mistakes. To arrange an appointment, call Polly Humphreys, Consulting Hypnotist and HypnoCoach™ @ one of her two offices:
- Greensboro - Greater Triad area: 336-988-5750; OR
- Boone, NC - Avery, Watauga or Ashe - Western NC Areas: 828-504-2003.
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